When you hear the word “relationship,” what do you think of? Do you think of your boyfriend or girlfriend? Your best friend? Your siblings?
There are many different types of relationships. You have a different relationship with your parents than you do your best friend. You have a different relationship with your neighbors who are an older married couple than you do with your boyfriend or girlfriend. But despite all the different types of relationships, there is one thing you can have in common in all of them, and that’s how you treat the other person, namely with selflessness.
No matter what relationship you may be thinking about right now, here are 4 simple but big ways that you can invest in someone’s life and show you care about them.
4 Ways to Deeper Relationships
1. Ask How They Are Doing
I don’t mean “How are you?” “I’m good. How are you?” I mean show the other person that you actually care about them. What have they done since the last time you spoke? Did he get that job he said he applied for? Did she get accepted to the college she wanted? Did they win their baseball tournament?
Ask specific questions that go beyond the simple answer of “I’m good.” Pay attention to what they say and ask follow up questions. If he got the new job, does he like it? What does he do? If she didn’t get into the college she wanted, what is she doing now?
If your friend is struggling with something, listen to what’s going on. Sometimes people aren’t looking for someone with all the right things to say; sometimes they just want someone who will listen to them. If your family member accomplished one of their goals, congratulate them.
We live in a time where communication is accessible, fast, and easy. Take advantage of that wonderful opportunity and send your friend a text to say you’re thinking about her. Call your brother who’s away at college and find out how he’s doing. You could even send someone a card just to say hello. Traditional mail and email are still great ways to get in touch with people.
Think about how you can encourage and bless someone else today.
2. Pray for Them and Pray Together
This can go right along with the first point. If you ask someone how they are doing and they share an illness or concern they have, offer to pray for them. Pray for that person right then and continue to pray about it on your own.
It’s all too easy for us to say, “I’ll be praying for you” but never actually pray. I’ve been guilty of that. If you say you’re going to pray for them, make an intentional effort to actually pray for them. If you forget things easily, take a moment to write down the prayer request. That’s what I started doing.
Also, you don’t have to wait for someone to ask for prayers or mention something that needs prayers. Be proactive and just ask if there is anything you can pray about for them. I think everyone always has something they could use prayer for, and it doesn’t always have to be a bad thing. It could be a praise. Don’t miss out on the opportunities to thank God when He answers prayers and blesses you or others.
3. Show Interest in Their Interests
We all have our hobbies and passions. The things we love to do more than anything. Find out what your sister’s hobby is or the thing your friend is most passionate about. You’ll know when you find what it is because their faces will light up, and they will get really excited.
Find out what excites the people in your life and then show an interest in it. Ask them questions about their favorite sport or the career they are pursuing. What do they do? What’s their favorite part about it?
If your sister is passionate about art, ask her to show you her artwork and explain how she drew it. If your best friend loves basketball, ask him to explain to you how the game works. Ask them to teach you how to do what they do and love.
Showing interests in other people’s passions and simply asking them to tell you more is a little way you can show you care, and it will have a big impact on them. More than that, you will be able to get to know that person more. And who knows, maybe you’ll learn a new skill and discover you love it as well.
4. Study the Bible Together
What better way to build a deeper relationship with anyone than by studying the Word of God together? Not only will you know your Lord and Savior better but you will also come to know your friends and family better. You will build deeper relationships that glorify God.
Ways that we can build deeper, stronger, more meaningful relationships with the people around us are not limited to these 4 things. The point is striving to be more intentional with our relationships, putting others before ourselves.
What are some other ways that we could invest in other people’s lives? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Your sister in Christ,