Most of us want to get married one day. It’s a natural desire given to us by God. When He created Adam, God said it wasn’t good that Adam was alone, so He created Eve to be Adam’s helper. (Genesis 2:18-25)
But our desire to date or get married can become very selfish. We want a boyfriend or girlfriend because we want the attention or want someone to listen to us. It’s fun and makes us feel good.
But what if we had a completely different mind frame? What if instead of seeing what we can get out of the relationship, we see how we can best serve the other person?
If we look to Jesus as an example of how we should live our life, we won’t find him hanging out with the leaders of the day in hopes of benefiting from their wealth and power. Instead, we find Him washing the feet of fishermen. (John 13:1-17)
In any relationship in our life, we should be looking for ways to serve others.
If you’re interested in dating someone, are you encouraging that person to follow Christ or are you distracting him or her from Christ? Are you honoring the other person with your words and actions?
When we change our perspective from ourselves to others and start asking how we can serve the other person, we are honoring God in our relationship. He wants us to lift each other up and encourage each other to remain focused on Him. In every relationship in our life, whether with family, friends, or dating someone, our goal should always be to honor God and others.
What would honoring others look like in our lives? It could be treating a friend to lunch, offering to do something with your sibling that they enjoy, or it could be as simple as just listening to someone when they need someone to talk to. Honoring others does not have to come in the form of large and expensive gifts. Little gestures you do to show you are thinking about someone or putting them and their needs and desires before your own can be the big things to them.
Have ideas of more ways to honor others? Do you have a story you’d like to share of a way someone honored you? Share in the comments below!
Your sister in Christ,